2 posts tagged “making up”
These images of the pain of breaking up illustrate the emotions people go through from panic, desperation, anger and just plain confusion.
Constant phone calls and emails, wanting to argue why they should get back together, turning up unannounced at places their ex hangs out. Yes, it hurts but Jackson lays out the blueprint which has helped more than 7000 people around the world find their way back into their relationship and none of the above are considered appropriate behavior if you want your ex back.
This is for those of you currently in a situation where your partner has basically dumped you. It's not really an endearing term is it...dumped you but how else would you describe it.
The truth is, when all looks lost and you are full of panic and desperation the best thing to do is simply walk away and accept the umpire's decision.
What!...not the advice you expected to hear but reality is, there is really nothing you can do during this time to change your ex's mind. Right now, you are the last person they really want anything to do with. So why not start planning your get together right as of this moment and and simply tell them you agree with the break up and in fact, you were seriously considering this yourself for quite some time.
Yes, it's not what you probably want to hear at the moment because all you want is to get back where you think you belong but understand, it's a crucial first step in the magic of making up process.
You achieve several things by doing this:
- The first is you avoid any unnecessary conflict. For example, by being in a state of mind of panic and desperation you're likely to want to be argumentative...not good.
- Secondly, by doing something rash will just convince your ex they've made the right decision.
- Thirdly, by walking away will gain you some respect in the eyes of your ex and this is something you can leverage off to your benefit when you commence your efforts to win them back later on.
The bottom line is, this time will be good for both of you; the time will definitely be needed to relax the feelings of panic and desperation for both of you and will also give you in particular, time to really assess whether you really want to go back.
There are no winners in a break up during the initial split because feelings are at an all time high. The magic of making up is not an instant process but done correctly, will give you the best chance of getting your ex back.
